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Masks and personality

Masks and personality
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A person plays a role. It can be a Dominant or a Submissive. People look inside themselves and, find a suitable mask in the depths of their souls, put it on their faces. Until the mask is put on, people are immersed in their role without a trace. Then they find a partner, exchange fantasies and dreams and try to turn them into a possible scenario. They think that it will work ... And it works, if you do not take into account that the new "relations", built in this way, tend to disintegrate. After several meetings, "something happens" and the couple breaks up again to plunge into the search for new partners. People ignore the sense of relief that they experience when they stop such relationships. People readily accept the idea that just a former partner was not "the One". This search can last for years. Especially if people hold fast to their fantasies based on a perfect scenario.

The fantasy of being trapped in a cage every day is very attractive in the head, but it can’t be tested in reality at all. It's boring, uncomfortable, and it's an absolutely useless waste of person's capabilities and talents. The man in the cage does not receive anything. No computer, no books, no TV, no bath, no phone, no attention... But no one describes the feelings of a slave whose mother comes into the room and sees him, naked in a cage... Another common fantasy: to have slaves ready to fulfill any desire of the Lord with a nod of head. Anyone (regardless of wealth) can feel like a king playing this scenario. Engage in sex at any time, see any of his orders executed immediately... But no one mentions the enormous responsibility, the need to provide shelter, clothing, food, medicine, rest to each servant slave. A huge amount of attention is needed to keep the slave happy and healthy. And the Submissives swear among themselves, they are jealous, get into difficult situations and create a billion other problems...

When a person reaches one’s limit (the time, during which the role was suitable, ends), the mask inevitably falls and the other side of the personality appears. This often happens when corporal punishment is used. One of the participants becomes difficult to receive or continue to inflict spanking. This point often becomes the beginning of an "explosion"... Then usually comes confusion. A person realizes that he has broken his own word. That he did not act in accordance with the agreed role. The embarrassment experienced at this moment is so great that people understand, they need to break up right after this moment. Because they do not see ways to restore the old trust. All these scenarios were doomed to failure before they were written. It is presumptuous to believe that a dressed mask will be able to seal tightly everything that is left inside. Any mask is unstable, and an attempt to suppress some instincts leads to violation of the balance ... And, sooner or later, the locked part will be unlocked. There are no predefined ways and formulas to be a Dominant or a Submissive.

Masks and personality: Forget about masks1. Forget about masks

There are no strict requirements. Being a dominant does not mean being a bitch 24 hours a day. Likewise, this does not mean that by showing your vulnerability, you will lose the respect of others. If you can’t show all the sides of your personality - you are just a reflection, an empty image. If you think that Dominants do not smile, do not laugh, do not joke, do not flirt. - then I want to warn you - you are not honest with yourself. To build a viable relationship, it is necessary that all sides of the personality find ways to show themselves. Only the "entirety" of the person will allow you to feel self-confidence. No, you will not be able to be a Dominant or Submissive 24 hours a day. The strongest part will manifest itself most of the time.

At some point, it is necessary to leave illusions and expectations and replace them with a rational choice. In reality, there is no no secret castle where a fantastically rich Master will keep you in luxury and comfort. Submissives dreaming of such things can be very disappointed when faced with an order to wash the toilet with a toothbrush ... Dominants expecting to be served 24 hours a day, after a while will most likely realize that the presence of such people next to them reminds them of a nursery, and not an erotic fairy tale... Most likely, such Dominants will be absolutely not ready for the biggest Doms’ stress - to be completely responsible for someone else's life and happiness.

2018-03-29

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