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What are the best friends of BDSMer? Right! BDSM-toys! Let's talk about them a bit!

Sexual devices for BDSM

Sexual devices for BDSM
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We always hear from people about having the best sex in their lives, orgasms, or relationships. But it is something that works for the world of another living being. It is really hard to transform someone’s feelings or concepts into yours.

In this article we are going to develop your BDSM play. As most of BDSMers do the easiest things like light flogging or tickling and have never used any special devices. Let’s look at the best options to start with. But before we proceed we suggest you going to a sex-shop with your couple or surfing web together. It will play a good preliminary stage for BDSM-session.

Let the fun begin!

Playing with BDSM-devices may become a very interesting entertainment for newbie BDSM-couples or single adepts. The first step for you is to choose the toy and check the description of it. Try it out on yourself, to understand its influence on human’s body and mind, prepare some interesting techniques for using it and go ahead, bring it to your bedroom, to your beloved person. By examining it oneself you get a clear understanding of what to do with it without getting negative feedback from your partner. Besides, you will get to fun part with a proper mood, if you start playing with a new toy yourself while your Sub is waiting for you (you are also making a powerful intrigue.)

On the question of security, if you examine the toy solely, you won’t probably go right into actions that will buy you some time on looking at traumas it may cause.

Sexual devices for BDSM: Blindfold1. Prepare yourself for punishment!

People on the Internet love to share their knowledge on the topics they love, so instead of moving to another site, scroll the page with a desired BDSM-device down and read the reviews of people. This way, you will get feedback to a model you are eager to purchase.

Before we proceed with a detailed analysis of several toys, please, remember about SSC and stop-words. The border between “good pain” and “bad pain” is quite easily crossed. Choose the word that won’t be used in any situation during sex that states the willingness of one person to stop the “dialogue” and have a break. Like “Giraffe” or “Piano”. When one of the “participants” pronounces the Stop-word, it means that the session is over and you need to provide another person with Aftercare.

If you accept the rules, let’s dive in right into the action! Slightly below we describe the ways to use 5 categories of BDSM-toys.

Blindfolds

Blindfolds are one of the cheapest and easiest ways to start your BDSM-path. They are also totally secure. An ordinary sleep mask may do well for the first session of Blindfold-play. After its end you will be able to decide, whether you want to buy some specific decorative mask or not. Choose masks that can be adjusted (we are all unique, what to say) and doesn’t put direct pressure on eyes.

Restraints

Fixation is probably one of the greatest aspects in BDSM-world. You can make a perfect session by using it. Neoprene wristbands will a perfect choice for newbies. They are easy to put on and off. They are smooth and pleasant to wear on. If you want to do it in hardcore way, search for tools that will cuff you to bed. In case you are too anxious and scared, leave them nearly open for you to release self when feeling uncomfortable. Don’t use rope, you need to gain some Mastery to start using it in your sessions.

Don’t leave your restrained partner alone. As she needs your whole attention. Control the pressure you put on her hands/legs, as it may stop blood circulation.

Floggers

Floggers are made of several cloth stripes (chamois, leather, or something equally soft.) You can use them during attentive and delicate sessions by touching your partner with a flogger. In other case, you can bring some heat by swinging the toy a bit. The best thing about floggers is that you deliver less pain in comparison to Bastinados, for example due to the fact that they are made of several stripes. The best choice for a novice BDSMer.

Try it on your skin first and you will understand what we are talking about. As you both have only started your path in BDSM, ask about his/her thoughts and feelings all the time. Don’t be afraid to be annoying during the first sessions. Don’t use flogger on face and genitals.

Paddles

If you are a newbie, we recommend you to use big paddles. As there is the axiom – the smaller a paddle, the more painful paddle-play becomes. If the pad is covered with fur, it will be easier for Sub to handle the painful tensions.

And again, before using paddle, try it on your own body! It will help you to understand, how harsh you can be in the following session.

Don’t forget about warming up your partner, as avoiding this preliminary stage may cause dangerous issues with health. Increase the power of hit gradually. Aim at the muscles and fatty parts like hips and buns. Don’t you ever paddle elbows, knees, and genitals. Smooth an area of effect with your hand after each hit.

Sexual devices for BDSM: Candles2. Fire and Kink

Candles

Candle-play is a wonderful way to mix fire and BDSM. However, you need to find special candles (the ones that were on your Granny’s Birthday won’t work here). Think about massage candles or the Japanese ones with oils and sweet smell.

Start with your palm and then go to more sensitive parts of your body. As soon as you understand, how to do it, go to your partner.

Nipple Clamps

Nipple clamps, as it is understandable from the name, are created for squeezing your nipples. It is a perfect variant for those, who want to combine hellish pain with heavenly pleasure. Newbies MUST use these devices with special regulators (hail to the technological advances of BDSM-toys.)

Start with the lowest level of pleasure and put a clamp on areola to decrease the sensitivity. The main thing to know (it is great that we inform you now) is that the REAL PAIN comes after you unplug them. Your body adapts to pain, telling you that it is okay to wait more. How big will be your surprise, when you finish the session.

Therefore, we recommend you to put them on several seconds and then unplug them, repeat the same procedure several times. On the next day you will be able to increase the time of using them slowly, but steadily.

Gags

Gags can increase the intensity of your sexual games without actually doing harm to a partner. If you want to have a gag-play, try it out on yourself first. Check, whether it won’t make you vomit. Practice breathing during wearing. Nota bene, your jaw will be getting more and more tired during gagging. Wear it for 5 minutes at first, then proceed with more time. The gag won’t let you pronounce the Stop-word clearly, so choose an additional Stop-signal instead of a word. For example, lifting your arm or pointing a wall with your thumb.

2018-03-29

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