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In this article we are going to describe the places where BDSM-adepts meet, learn, play, and find their couples. Yes, we are speaking about BDSM-clubs. Let's define the term and speak about the rules.

What are the BDSM-clubs?

What are the BDSM-clubs?
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Some people believe that BDSM-clubs (clubs for those who love sado-masochism) are dangerous. There are myths that you can be stretched to the wall and flogged for the kicks of the audience. Please, don’t believe in such gossips.

The rules of such establishments are loyal to the clients. You can find high-level etiquette then even in the governmental institutions and the sanctions are harsher.

As you can find such clubs in any civilized country we should describe the basic notions of one and answer the main question: “What is BDSM-club?”. A newbie can make some serious behavioral mistakes. You see, there is a strong difference between an ordinary and BDSM-community.

If you strive to visit BDSM-club, learn as much as possible about the etiquette, traditions, and rules of our growing society on our site and in books. There are many interesting articles to read and to learn from. So don’t hesitate to take a closer look at them in order to understand the Idea of our movement.

BDSM Clubs: Your private event1. Your private event

A party in a night club is a pleasant and important event for many people. You must look ritzy, act like a king/queen, and communicate like an ambassador. Today you don’t have any negative features, they are all covered with make-up, good haircut, and expensive clothes. If you don’t meet these requirements, you won’t get to the aforementioned club.

Private BDSM night clubs remain mystery for the remaining percent of society. Therefore, you can’t barely find some “manual for a beginner” easily.

We have written down 6 statements that make the most important rules of most thematic clubs. Both public events and secret meetings. They don’t refer to any party you will get, but they are highly flexible and half of them will definitely be used there.

So, what does BDSM-etiquette states about night clubs and parties in there.


1. You can’t touch anybody unless you are allowed to. Even if you mean friendly approach, it won’t work out this way.

Some people consider air kisses, hugs, and touches as normal signs of respect and friendship. “Abovementioned actions are natural” you may say out loud. Probably it is acceptable for vanilla community. If you don’t have a direct phrase “Touch my shoulder, clench my hand, and etc.”, you don’t have permission to touch a person.

Physical contact that wasn’t precedingly allowed by a person next to you is considered to be a rough violation of rules. Even if you see a naked couple that drink champagne and laugh, you can’t just come to them and touch somebody. The best scenario will be the insult in return. The worst one – you touch the ground outside the club. Maybe with your face.

Everything depends on communication. So If you ask another person kindly, he/she will allow you to do what you are asking about.


2. Make free space for a Top that is practicing near you as he can use some special devices or uncommon practices and techniques.

If the room where Top is playing a public scene is crowded with people, try to leave the room or just flatten oneself against the wall. If Dominant asks you to make more free space for him, try to fulfil his request. If a visitor comes too close to the scene and makes it hard for Top to do what he does, the latter can use his lash on the former.


3. Keep silence during the play.

If it is hard to have your mouth shut right here and now, leave a room in order not to bother other guests and players. In other cases, it can wait.

BDSM Clubs: Be silent and Embrace BDSM2. Be silent and Embrace BDSM

4. Keep one’s upper lip stiff.

Even a sudden joke whispered right to the ear of your neighbor can be heard by the scene players. As they are emotionally vulnerable during the process of BDSM-session your lightest joke can make a terrible impact and prevent them both from getting pleasure. Be deliquate and don’t open your mouth, if it is not for an emergency cause.

5. Don’t you ever try to speak neither to Top nor to Bottom during the play.

This mistake is done by many newbies. If a Top makes a break to change punishing (or pleasuring) device, it isn’t the right time to come to them and ask about stuff. Everyone understands your role. You want to get a deep breath in this whole new world, but be patient. Otherwise you have nothing to do with BDSM.


6. If partners don’t want to finish the session or want to play more afterwards, don’t come to them. This isn’t the right time again. Your intervention will be estimated as harassment and abuse. Leave them be to oneselves and go to another room to talk to someone else as there may be some professionals who are free and ready to help a newbie-adept.

2018-03-29

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