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Is sadomasochism in BDSM a terrible practice that goes against human rights? Or is it a common practice that delivers more pleasure than pain, if done carefully? Let’s find out!

Sex and sadomasochism

Sex and sadomasochism
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Sadomasochism is a physical abuse in erotic and sexual play that leads to painful sensations of different intensity and duration. It also leads to the utter discomfort of Bottom and humiliates him in some way. It is performed in case BDSM, if the Sub is Sadomasochist and will not have physical or psychological traumas afterwards. On contrary, only the strongest sexual feelings will fall on a person like a cascade. This is hardly found in common sex.

The most well-known method of sadomasochism is tying wrists and ankles of Sub, chaining one to the cross, table, or bed. Some people use special constructions hanging from the ceiling. As you have already understood, we are speaking about Bondage. Couples that practice tying get unrivaled pleasure that varies depending on the scenario they perform or objects they use. The key aspect he lies in the dependence Bot feels. When a person can do nothing about the situation, he should just go along with the tide. This way the pleasure is inevitable. This method works well for those, who have a passive role in bed, this way they aren’t questioned for being static.

Sex and sadomasochism: How far can you get?

1. How far can you get?

In case you want to play on the other side and bring both pain and happiness, you need to be extra careful. Every little knot, belt, cuff, or chain must be checked twice, as Sub will try to release oneself from this slavery either consciously, or subconsciously. This attempt may end with an injury, if you don’t do a proper fixation.

For sure, fixation requires special BDSM-toys, but it may be too expensive decision for the first try of bondage. You can use some tools at hand, but take in mind that won’t provide security for both of you.

Contradiction of sadomasochism in sex

If we see that vanilla couples do spanking or squeezing as a matter of intensifying sex, BDSM ideologists consider fixation as a must attribute of such influence. As it has been previously mentioned, you may use different devices for that matter.

Why do some people love beating a person next to them and other type is eager to receive corporal punishment as a form of sex? One psychiatric school states that it is a matter of early age experience issues, when a youngster was deprived of love and respect from his parents, classmates, teachers, friends, or first love. These are the roots that grow with the age of the person and appear in sexual relationships. Such transformations make sad memories less painful.

This is also the most understandable version. It is just a nice feeling that many people love to have. Especially, when it comes to buns or boobs. And there is definitely nothing wrong with it. Some people love French kisses, others – pain. Why should you care about what people think?

Sex and sadomasochism: Show me your love

2. Show me your love

How real is it?

You’ll never know, until you try it out yourself. Hardcore sex and Sadomasochism is quite terrifying for an ordinary person, who knows only about missionary position. Here you will find needles, knives, whips, spikes, and other “devices”. When such a person imagines Sadomasochism, he sees inquisitional rooms with hundreds of types of tortures. But Everyman should remember that it is like a movie. Seems horrifying and tragic for the characters (at least one of them), but usually doesn’t traumatize anyone.

What is the goal?

While having Sadomasochism sex partners don’t put orgasm as a #1 goal. No, instead they have a special state of mind and body that has a term “Subspace”. It is quite similar to the aforementioned orgasm, but has different physiology. It is reached, when Sub feels real pain. It is a achieved during HARDCORE session. I repeat, light sadomaso phantasies won’t bring you to this new world. It is thought that pain mixed with sex creates a strong bond between a Slave and his Master.

Sure, such play require an unbreakable trust in the couple. Therefore, if in some day you will think that SM-relations are the only thing that will make you happy, consider this piece of advice. Never do SM with a stranger, as it may be a real sadist that won’t care about your feelings, emotions, and health (both mental and physical). But don’t go into your shell and without having trust to anyone. Just get to know your partner better, if you want him to be your Master in a future SM-play. Before starting the whole thing discuss even the tiniest details you like and don’t like, agree on stop-words and their meanings, and speak about taboos you have.

Precautionary measures
If suddenly you feel that a body part that is being physically abused by an active partner became numb, lost sensitivity, or doesn’t feel anything, you must speak aloud about it. Be careful about the places, where there are big arteries, e.g. neck.

Sex and sadomasochism: All you need is pain

3. All you need is pain

In case of unexpected situations (fire outbreak, sudden visit of your parents, or issues with release) have at hand the following:

  • Extra keys;
  • Scissors;
  • Flashlight;
  • Knife;
  • First-aid Kit;
  • Hacksaw (if you are a “metal”-fan).

If you have fun with a person, you mustn’t forget about him aftermath. Help him to release oneself and check, how he feels. Remember that you are obliged to do it, as you are the one responsible for mental and physical condition of you Sub.

As it was mentioned in the previous chapter, discuss stop-words, as the “Stop it!”, “I can’t hold it any longer”, “No”, “Enough”, and etc. doesn’t really work here. You may pronounce them instinctively, as a safeguard system of your organism or use them as an artistic part of play. The most widespread words are “Red” for “Stop it” and “Yellow” for “Slower, less intensive, please”.

The main thing for you is that you need to trust your partner, follow SSC rules, and love BDSM. This way, you will understand why Sadomasochism is so popular in our sphere.

2018-03-29

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