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In this article we’ll talk about LS-relationships. How they start, develop, and end.

Age in BDSM

Age in BDSM
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This question is quite common in BDSM-society.

For example, we have a couple with age of 25-30 years old. They are young, beautiful, and ambitious. Full of sexual and spiritual energy. And BAM. Routine.

We need to warn you, that we are talking about LS-relationships solely, as there is nothing hard about meeting 2 times a week and then getting back to your own lives.

No, we are speaking about 24/7 thing. When you live with a person your life isn’t based on BD-sessions and endless sex. There is a plenty of vanilla thing to do on a daily basis like cooking, washing, cleaning, and etc.

Until they reach a marker of 30 years, they don’t speak about children, serious plans, and etc. They live and love each other. In various poses and practices. Routine isn’t that close.

Let’s look at this couple after ten years have passed.

They are 35-40 years old. How do they develop their relationships in that age?

They both have their responsibilities and duties. They both have to pay rent and food. Routine approaches. And what if Dominant can’t support his family by himself? What if Submissive doesn’t want to dedicate all her life to caring about her Top?

LS – Strict subordination

1. LS – Strict subordination

You know, the answer as always is quite simple. There are no issues in relationships that couldn’t be solved with communication.

BDSM isn’t a parallel world, where a couple becomes something different from homo sapiens. They are ordinary people with their small happinesses and tragedies. They get exhausted, frustrated, and terrified like vanilla people do.

We may say that the difference between vanilla and BDSM-couple isn’t that big. Most vanilla couples have rules and traditions that can be hardly understood by people from outside of it.

However BDSM one has a feature that does make a difference.

“A Rule to Tell”, as we call it. It states that Submissive MUST tell about her fears and worries that can be dangerous to relationships.

Although Top has no need to speak about what bothers him, his duty is to listen to Bot and solve this situation.

It comes in handy, when a lady has been thinking about something and now she stays quiet and mysterious. Or a man was offended this much that can’t stand it and runs away like a little child.

Dialogue is an inescapable rule that puts more responsibility on Top. As he needs to control the situation not only during a session, but in everyday life too. Because happiness and prosperity of the couple depends on him.

LS can have a sip of vanilla

2. LS can have a sip of vanilla

If Dominant ignores Bot’s mental and physical states and orders her to do everything for his coziness and pleasure, he is likely to have a quarrel in the nearest future. But right after the order is given, he will either get silent obedience or small dirty talk session from his Sub.

Relationships, where Bot carries slippers in her teeth and then willingfully gets oneself hanged on the big cross while the Dominant is on work, are far from reality.

Let’s repeat it once more, BDSM-adepts are common people with their own fetishes. For example, if Top loves cleaning rooms more than Bot does. He will do it. And this thing won’t do bad to his Master status.

Can you tell me, whether it is common or not, when Dom-Sub couple goes to a shop to a shop? Or when Master helps his Slave to carry heavy bags to the car? Or when Top goes to the aforementioned shop without Bot as the latter doesn’t feel well.

These are ordinary situations and there is nothing “unforgiven” in them for BDSM-idea in general.

But let’s continue with our topic. It doesn’t depend on the age of the couple. There are families that started practicing, when BDSM wasn’t trendy yet. Some of them had already had grown-up kids.

LS – Love grows with you

3. LS – Love grows with you

Our society has 40+ and 50+ adepts that aren’t only experienced in sessions and practices, but also in other life aspects.

The absence of kids is a popular thing too. But it is decision taken by every couple itself. If a person next to you states that he won’t have kids, because he is currently being in LS with someone, show him this article.

We may be talking about a trend called “childfree”, but this path is chosen even by vanilla couples.

Are there many 50+, 60+ vanilla couples that lived together more than 20 years? There are quite few of these.

A number of BDSM-couples equals or even extends the former one. As life that is based on extreme actions and trust may survive through much more challenges along the way. It is also easier to understand, whether a person next to you is worth the efforts or it is better to quit these relations and find someone else.

However there is also a cruel outcome. It is much harder to find a proper BDSM-adept that will fit you on all levels.

You should consider two aspects. How Submissive is ready to change oneself to deliver more pleasure to Dom and for how much Top can sacrifice BDSM-aspect to make couple happier.

Therefore, age is the basis for LS-relationships that become stronger each year.

2018-03-29

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