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Another side of DS-relations

Another side of DS-relations

Another side of DS-relations
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What is the emotional state of DS-relations? We’ll answer this question in the article.

The question of emotional reflections is sacred for those, who seek pleasure in BDSM. It is argued about all over the community. Does it really exist or it is a question of satisfying Top?

If we refer to the basic principles of this term – it is an external manifestation of psycho-emotional reactions to the actions of partner. As you understand, the term is used for the emotions of Submissives usually in SM-relationships. Top here is the one, who delivers pleasure and Bot is the one, who receives it.

What people think

SM-fans assure everybody that their emotions are the purest and the most authentic. As it proves to be hard to imitate your emotions or play the role. It is about instincts and primal and passionate sex.

Those people insist that DS-ers are just actors and actresses that simulate true nature of BDSM. It can’t be seen, as there is no visible component.

But let’s come back to DS. It is meant to be the most long-lasting and mature relationship in BDSM. We can’t speak about sure emotional reflections in general, because they may be found in the observations of particular couples.

 Power to obey Power to obey

It requires much attention, time, and mutual understanding in-between the ‘partnership’. No special training required.

The basement of DS-relations is power and responsibility of Dominant that result in obedience of Sub.

You can create these reflections by understanding the part you take in pleasuring the partner of yours. Top is happy, when he is trusted and loved. Bot is happy, when she can uncover her tensions and trust partner with 100%.

You can say that as the age of a couple increases, the emotional specter widens. The psycho-emotional experience develops and each session delivers more feelings. Everything 2 partners feel spreads between them equally. In bed (an in a daily life) you forget about “mine, yours” and think of “ours”. It is the moment, when DS-relationships show the, let’s call it a “coupleback”.

Enough with lyrics, let’s come to practice.

Imagine the situation, DS-couple plays its game in a BDSM-club. You may say that these reflections come from SM-part they show to public (they don’t show DS-aspect in there). But it’s not like that. It still occurs on the psycho-emotional level. Bottom reacts to the slightest movements, touches, and words of Top. She enjoys not only the physical aspect, but the understanding of her importance for Dominant. Even if she doesn’t enjoy some action or order, she still reflects to his words.

DS-relations are much more complex as there is no “afterwards” like in SM session. Here we have true relationships without adding “vanilla syrup” on top of them.

Etiquette, you may say? Yes, it can show a true nature of DS. However, each couple has its own codex that develops during the years of coupledom.

These reflections aren’t based on this codex. They are in smallest things. Understanding what Top thinks and foreseeing his next moves and dreams.

Didn’t you realize that there are couples that are interesting to look at. You can feel their emotions on your own skin. Even if they didn’t plan to show anything to the surroundings, it eventually happens. It is the reason you can’t stand looking at them. Sympathizing their manner of life and their love.

2017-08-07

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