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A pledge of love is honesty and communication. Don’t be afraid to talk to a person, you will soon give a flogging to.

We need to Talk!

We need to Talk!
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We have mentioned the main thesis of relationships (both vanilla and BDSM) for so many times. The key to mutual understanding with partner lies in communication. You may be surprised, but BDSM-relations are affected by it more than in any common couples. Here, straightforward and honest words play the most important role, as it is the matter of psychological and physical health of partners.

Relationships are a Dialogue, not a Monologue of one side.

Most people may accuse Top of any terrible consequences that occur in bed. However, if you are Submissive, it doesn’t mean you have no responsibility for your life. Perfect Bottom is the one that not only can satisfy her Master, but also make him understand, what she feels in a proper form. As this is the way to make both “parties” happy.

In 99%, man doesn’t have telekinetic powers to read your mind. Therefore, make him know about your worries and fears. If he doesn’t react to it or even laughs at you – that isn’t your person.

Some rules for both sides

We are talking about open-mindness and it seems, there is nothing hard in it. However there are obstacles that can’t be avoided easily.

Yes, Top won’t have problems with talking to Submissive, but what about her? In most cases, Sub won’t show her true feelings and emotions so not to make her man angry. She may also be ashamed of talking about some things that bother her.

In the beginning, we suggest you use questionnaire method. Include preferences in bed and everyday life, requirements, and, of course, taboos. Advise her to keep a diary, in order to understand her way of thinking and reactions to particular practice.

Listen to your Sub1. Listen to your Sub

Beside, while you are on that stage of relations, make lists that describe:

  • Basic requirements
  • Rights
  • Expectations

Both partners should make them for a better mutual understanding. That’s

because both parties will be able to develop needed characteristics and improve relationships. Moving towards each other is a great way to do it.

As we talk about writing, it won’t show your emotional status and rarely people get an implicit meaning of words properly. Be straight-forward and try to write as many details as possible. Don’t forget that you have dialogue and listen to a partner after you share your opinion and thoughts.

Surely, Top is the Boss here. He takes decisions for the couple. However, it doesn’t mean he must have a power thrill. Instead, he must make Sub understand that she is important to him and he hears her words of request, pleasure, or dread. In no way can he do something bad to her. And that makes a perfect Top.

2 sides – 1 play

Let’s make two regulations.

The duty of Submissive is to be honest and not to be afraid of her Dom.

The duty of Dominant is to hear his Sub and make it good for both partners. It takes time for people to show their true “selves” to each other. It also covers the question of acceptance of ones’ roles. So don’t push and make it happen slowly, but steadily. And that makes a perfect Couple!

2018-03-29

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