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Orgasm control – myth or reality? A guide on how to perform this hardcore, but rewarding practice.

Orgasm control - 99%

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Orgasm control. Is it myth or a common BDSM-practice? Let’s find out!

Orgasm control can be divided into two groups:

  • Restricted to finish without permission
  • Finish after a straight order

Quite easy to understand, but how to perform it?

In the first variant we speak about coitus or stimulations that leads to pre-orgasmic condition. At that moment, Submissive isn’t allowed to “finish” and made to wait an allowance of Top. In addition to this rule, woman may not have permission to getting self-pleasure until she is allowed.

The second variant means that a lady will need to reach a “happy-ending” without any stimulation. Master tells, she fulfils his need. It may seem impossible to you, but it happens more usually than you can imagine.

Why?

You may ask us now: “Why the heck do we need it?”.

Firstly, it is a punishment for Bottom not to give her what she wants so eagerly. Secondly, such entertainment unites the couple and improves its mutual understanding. It is also lets you remember, who reigns and who serves.

By the way, every man will love to know that his beloved one can bust whenever he tells her. Or, on the contrary, won’t do it, before you won’t give her permission.

Bottom in this case will enjoy the feeling of total submission, where even orgasm lies in the hands of her Master.


Pleasure and control1. Pleasure and control

How long should you study

Orgasm control requires some time, preparation steps, and efforts to be learned. Don’t get fouled, this process will take much time. But it is all about the result, right?

What to start with

If you think that practice will magic up your controlled orgasm, you are wrong. You need to start from theory and the first step will be a conversation. Top must make sure that Bottom understands everything about “Orgasm control”: what does she need to do to reach it, does she want to learn it and does she believe in it. The last question is a-must. If the answer is positive, there are no obstacles on your way. Then create a “curriculum” and study the new practice step by step.

Usually, Slave isn’t allowed to masturbate or get orgasm alone, without a partner being next to her.

Practice

As we have finished the theoretical question, let’s proceed with practice. It is where the challenges occur to you both.

First thing is a perfect understanding of your Bottom. You must know the signs of upcoming finish. If you are new to each other, woman should tell you, where she’s near it.

The second thing here is hard from the psychological side. You must accept the fact that it will be hard to do everything right from the first time. Don’t punish your partner for that, we are sure, you are both trying equally.


Magical words2. Magical words

Stages of pleasure

  • Stimulation is almost at its end;
  • Top reminds Bottom of that she can’t cum without permission. At the beginning of studying, it is a paramount. She won’t be able to concentrate and remember about your special rules for this night;
  • Bottom asks Top to let her bust;
  • Dominant allows her to do it. In case Submissive waited enough to obey you, she would probably need 10-15 seconds for more stimulation (sometimes more). As the time passes, the reaction to a key-word will be instant (or close to it). We don’t suggest Master wait for too long as Slave may not last long this way. Don’t worry, longer pause will come with more experience;
  • Soon enough Bottom will beg for this word as it will become a catalyst for her orgasm. Without this catalyzer she won’t receive as powerful and bright ending as with it.

Catalyst-word can be something like “go”, “cum”, “bust”, or “do”.

Now the second level

When we speak about the second level, it means that you have successfully done every step before it. Moreover, you have achieved a new level of self-understanding and collaboration in couple. Congratulations on that as few reaches it.

There is a strong psychological aspect that you must take in mind as Dominant. Submissive that busts only after she hears the voice of her Master may not cum at all after break up. Your voice becomes a drug, and we understand how satisfying it sounds, but you need to take responsibility for all that happens next.

More practice

If you have read the previous paragraph, and still want to continue with practicing and developing, there is a short “step-by-step” for you.

  • Your woman is almost done
  • Top permits her to bust
  • As soon as the process starts and she is being in the middle of strong orgasm say a stop-word out loud. You must choose such a word precedingly as it plays an important role. It must be neutral and don’t wake up any emotions. It also mustn’tbe used in daily life.
  • After you have succeeded with this practice in sex, try manual stimulation. Submissive will cum upon touching. Top keeps repeating stop-word before orgasm, not during it.
  • Stimulation time shortens with each coition, until Bottom doesn’t bust after a single word.

Several tips

There are 3 methods that you can use to learn this practice

Word. This one was described in our article the emphasize is on a key-word.

Word+voice. Top doesn’t only use a special word, but pronounces it in a different way. Subconsciously Bottom gets used to both a word and a tone it is said with. If it is told by someone else, orgasm won’t come.

Voice. It is the hardest variant. The challenges are both in reaching orgasm and in psychological aspect. Submissive gets used to your timbre. It doesn’t matter WHAT you say, it matters HOW. For example, you can say “Cum right now” or “I want you to finish”. However, this variant needs an emotional and sensitive

A word of conclusion

As you have already got the idea, the concept of “Orgasm control” exists in BDSM-relationships. There are lots of conditions, rules, and challenges, but still it exists. Continue working on it and you will be able to perform this wonderful technique together. Just remember about SSC and love each other!

2018-03-29

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12 months ago

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