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BDSM and subordination

BDSM and subordination
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BDSM-relationships are quite often based on etiquette. However the level of etiquette is chosen by every couple itself. And thereover subordination between Top and Bottom depends on it.

However it is hard to maintain subordination. If you are being tete-a-tete conversation with a partner or in BDSM-club, you won’t face any problems with playing roles.

But the hardest part comes, when you need to keep your relationship a secret. Most people don’t know how to reach to such a lifestyle, so it is better for you to hide this fact, while you are

  • At work;
  • With vanilla friends;
  • In public places.

Hiding it from others is also a perfect way to add piquancy and temptation to your daily routine. It stimulates both partner and makes them remember, they have roles not only in bed.

1) Dialogue

It is long established that Bottom refers to Top as to Master, Lord, Dominant or whatever name Top chooses. Dominant himself may call Sub whatever he wants.

If we speak about an entire BDSM-community, all Bots should refer to Tops with respectfully.

2) Sight

Experience comes with the years of practice. Therefore, if you have been in these relationships for some time, you may use your eyes to point at the item or interest or order Sub to do something. This skill is only obtainable with years of servitude and quality reception. Note that it won’t probably work with a newbie-Bottom.

3) Gestures

Non-verbal communication is underestimated. You can create your very own gesture language to make your secret messages be received even in a crowded place. This way, “Slave” will always know what you want.

Creating language is a hard, but rewarding experience. Discuss, what this gesture means and in which situation.

Here are some examples. Point to a thing than snap fingers to make it delivered to you. Touch her shoulder to tell her “On your knees”. The variety of gestures and their meanings is infinite, so use your fantasy for it.

4) Notes

Another way of non-verbal communication. Use special cipher to encrypt your orders to Bot. She may receive it, while being on work in other public places. An important thing here is that it must be understandable only for you two.

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5) Conditions and rituals.

You have to create rituals that need to be performed without positive orders of yours.

This question is covered in “Story of O” novel.

For example, Sub is restricted of wearing skirts. Only dress pants are acceptable. If the climate is warm, you may tell her not to wear panties or bra, paint nails in a single color, etc.

As you have already understood, there is an infinite number of ways to make your relationships step over bedroom. Therefore, imagination is your best friend in creating your special code.

2018-03-29

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