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Speak Dirty to Me. I Love It!

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How many times did you want to use a swear-word during sex? We think that everyone has ever considered such an idea.Therefore, why do some people like bdsm? Because you may go beyond common moral borders without being ashamed of it.

Modern psychological research says that there is nothing wrong in hearing or using offensive language in bed. It covers situations, where both partners accept such behavior and don’t pursue the goal to insult a partner.

Why do we need it at all?

Rude words are one of the methods of adjusting psychological safety valve. They allow you to do slightly more than you do in real life due to rules of decorum. The whole idea of BDSM is about letting yourself more than you can in daily life.
As statistics shows. Those who don’t use offensive language in everyday life are quite inventive in this question in bed-play.

Why do they turn us on?


Since the beginning of time, Humanity got an idea “stolen waters are sweet”. Everything that may be forbidden and inadmissible is the most tempting for us.
As we’ve mentioned in the end of the previous paragraph, people who don’t let selves use rude words every time they want get horny from the same words in sex. It is a matter of relaxing yourself.
This axiom works vice versa. If you swear like a trooper, calling your partner with nasty words won’t turn you on.


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What is the root of the problem?


Sometimes people are too shy to say aloud what they really want. They don’t want to be misunderstood by other people. Especially when it comes to the sexual play. In their minds they want to hear and say, but it seems inappropriate for the situation or person. Therefore, they keep silence leaving oneself unsatisfied. If it is all about shyness, the question is simple. You need to communicate with your partner. Make him understand that you won’t be offended, if he uses several nasty words during your act. Also he must get out a message that if you say some rude words to him, it will matter nothing too. It is just a matter of getting higher level of excitement in a course of sex-session.


The easiest way to implement this “widening of vocabulary” to your couple is to create scenario. Abstract away from the ordinary roles. Being rude to a beloved person is bad, but what if it is fictional character? The history tells us that after playing a couple of such games shyness will no longer come to your bed.


If we speak about negation, we’ll need to discuss it in more details. The main question covers the origins of the complex. Strong rejection often comes from things that fluster us. However we can’t let it go over our moral laws. We punish ourselves even for the thoughts about it.
BDSM is the best helper in this case. It allows people to try everything they want. You can do whatever you want with your partner, if he/she accepts a certain method or role-play.


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Humiliation or provocation?


Whatever words are used during session they don’t mean to hurt your feelings or touch you to the quick. It is just a game. You can’t be offended by it. Therefore, rude words is just another practice in BDSM. You can’t call it humiliation for sure.


It is hard to imagine BDSM games without verbal abuse. Probably some couples can avoid this aspect, but it is hardly reachable. There is a certain, legal disproportion of roles in BDSM relationships. The whole idea is built on this thesis. That is why the usage of offensive language is natural here. They add colorfulness and piquancy. This way Submissive will feel his/her role with every fibre of one’s being. After roughness all gentle words and hugs are felt much brighter.


In fact, it is only you who can insult and be insulted. It is only you who can deprive oneself of self-esteem, and thereby allow someone else to offend you. Everything else is just a game that can open new facets in your relationship. Both vanilla and BDSM. Although vanilla isn't always prepared for this kind of practice.

I think now it is understandable, why people like BDSM.

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2018-03-29

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